Guys this was me playing bowling the other day with my buddy every time I instructed him how to throw the ball he got a strike but otherwise… GUTTER BALL! But then I gutter balled when I went… just thought I’d mention that
Yeah, I suck at bowling
Hey that’s awesome you coached him into getting strikes
(Strikes are a good thing in bowling but a bad thing in baseball apparently)
I feel attacked
I know this is a shit post, but I have wrestled with hypocrisy or more specifically saying one thing but doing something else for a long time. Think of a murderer saying that murder is wrong.
I think I am comfortable now saying that hypocrisy doesn’t discredit a true statement, even if the person who is saying it may be considered disingenuous.
You should be in bed, it’s midnight
Me? I’ve just started a movie
is there a name for the reverse of this? like making a change for yourself that works great for your needs, but then assuming that others just need to do the same thing?
Sharing what worked for you is a pretty normal way to give advise. It can get annoying when its done too much, but that’s also not really rare. Though that tends to happen more when it’s a fresh experience and probably related to sincerely wanting to share a good experience.
But I don’t any specific tarm for this. Projection maybe a bit
Who the hell does this Solomon guy think he is calling me out like this.
Best advice I’ve ever given and not taken was:
LAWYER UP, HIT THE GYM, DELETE FACEBOOK.
1/3 ain’t bad, I’ve made progress.
I hit up a lawyer named Jim on Facebook.
Hit up or hit on?
“Hey Jim, I got something for you to litigate. Why don’t you come over and rest your case on deez nutz 😉”
“My life is a mess right now and I compulsively take care of other people when I don’t know how to take care of myself.” -Princess Carolyn
We often have better perspective regarding other people’s troubles than we do our own.
We’re also often still wrong about it, anyway.
This is the guy who recommends cutting babies in half?
The craziest part of that is the idea supposedly working. Like: instead of both calling out his idea as outlandish, one of them was like “Yeah - cool. We’ll go with that plan. I can accept taking home half of a human child.”
I was always baffled by that story as a child, who would fight over keeping a baby?
No analogy is perfect.
me for relationship advice in highschool
me giving relationship advice currently
I gave decent advice, never been in one. Lmao, told my friend to go get him, didn’t go get another friend.
How to use “Solomon’s paradox” to give yourself good life advice
Being too close to a problem makes it hard to analyze without an outsider’s perspective. If I don’t have an outsider nearby or within friendnapping distance, I use the Rubber Ducky Debugging technique.
Practicing self-compassion makes it less awkward to treat yourself as amazingly as you treat those around you.
I use tarot cards. They’re pretty and I get to be the weird bog witch I always wanted to grow up to be.
It’s called self-actualization when you can give yourself the same advice. MDon’t let the term allow you to believe it’s more than a resting place of awareness.
Understanding my propensity to give good advice that I struggle to follow when applying it to myself has helped to push me towards actually following my own advice.
After all, I don’t want to be a hypocrite. It would feel wrong to give advice if I weren’t at least trying to follow it
do as I say not as I do
sudo as I say not sudo as I sudo.
-People who run around as root all day
Instructions unclear. Mimicking host.
dammit
Sometimes I make a conscious effort to think about what I would say to someone else in my situation. It’s helpful.
