AskewLord

people pay $1000s for these dogs, sometimes 10,000+

they are status symbols.

they think it is cute.

I cut them off because they don’t make my life better, they make it worse. I want my life to be better. A lot of people do not, they simple want to wallow in their interpersonal drama and never improve their lives or achieve anything.

God forbid I dump social deadweight in my life, rather than let myself be dragged into people’s drama and misery.

I hang out with people until they become dipshits, then I leave. Sometimes that takes a few months, sometimes years. But once they cross the dipshit line they have lost me. I have no interest in ‘friends’ who endlessly bitch about their partners, their job, or their life and offer me nothing positive. or they become bitter and jealous at my progress and start asking me for money and when I say no they flip out at me.

Sort of like a huge chunk of the userbase on lemmy… endless whining and crying and posturing but never actually taking responsibility for their own lives and happiness… no it’s capitalisms/AI/neoliberalisms fault!

sorry, should i be lifelong loyal to people who are dipshits?

is that what a ‘friend’ is?

Yeah, multiple times. I purge friends every 3-5 years.

It’s easy, you just cut contact, move on with your life, meet other people.

I have never regretted it and it’s always result in a much better things. life is too short to waste it.

take an art class as museum or something. it will give you structure

how old are you?

I mean, those are the posts that get the most comments and votes… and most posts only come from a handful of people…

https://www.faa.gov/air-traffic-controller-qualifications

There requirements would eliminate the vast majority of gamers. They want people in perfect physical and mental health (perfect vision and perfect hearing) with bachelors degrees. No drugs. And you have to pass a qualifying exam.

Then you are going to be working 3-4 years at low pay until you are fully certified.

Most people believe in guilt by association, and can’t logically separate out opinions from facts or the message from the medium. I’m not sure where I went wrong, but I was taught that stuff in high school, and then further in college… esp in like debate club, or history projects, where you had to learn about the other side’s POV and all that… seems like nobody is learning that ‘skill’ anymore as it’s ‘irrelevant’ for people today.

The idea of things being separable, is not really in vogue as it was 20-40 years ago. The internet has allowed the organization of mass moron-ization. More and more both internet content and my real lif einteractions w/ people… remind me of my dad who was your classic very angry moron. He flew into a rage anytime he saw or heard anything that didn’t align with his pre-existing views and absolutely refused ever to learn anything new or entertain the possibility maybe he was wrong.

If Jonathan Swift wrote A Modest Proposal today, he’d be condemned for being an anti-Irish baby hating bigot any so would his publisher or anyone who read the book. You’d also have a movement clamoring to ‘cancel’ him and people on lemmy would be calling him Nazi and a fascist and citing the paradox of tolerance as to why he must be stopped.

Anyway, the problem is that most people operate at a raw emotional level. They do not think, they react. And this reaction-economy is what drives the internet, people are addicted to the shit that pisses them off, that makes them feel superior, and etc. It’s a neurological drug.

Thinking about things… destroys that addictive drug loop of raw emotion. and of the moral high of being a ‘good guy’ fighting the ‘evil bad people’. The moral ambiguity of reality makes people very uncomfortable.

it’s porn. it’s not supposed to make any sense anymore than Marvel movies are. it’s fantasy

it’s taboo. that’s all there is to get.

taboos are sexy.

Exactly. it’s well-documented that echo chamber communities tend towards extremism over time, as the members internally fight for status and try to one-up each other while doing so. And while doing this, they tend to demonize and dehumanize the ‘other side’ to a greater and greater degree.

And open communities… don’t.

Evidence is right here on lemmy. Just go to to the echo chamber communities, and you’ll see all sorts of heinous commentary… and you will see way less of it in the same communities on .world or non-echo chamber instances.

A lot of the news feeds for the echo chambers on fedi are insanely toxic and have incredibly awful dehumanizing takes about the ‘other’ side. But inside them, the members think their delusional takes are ‘truth’ and that it’s the outsiders who are toxic and delusional.