They say it’s harder to break up with friends than a romantic partner since the rules are a lot less cut-and-dry. This often results in people tolerating others’ company they otherwise wouldn’t be around because they can’t bring themselves to cut them loose.
I’ve only ever friend broken up with one other person who was going down a 4chan bigotry rabbit hole back in the day, and he’d constantly bring up problematic talking points that I’d try to dismantle, but he was too dogmatic to have a conversation with so I had to stop being friends with him.
I check up on his online presence every now and again, but he’s only gotten more racist and sexist. Sometimes I wonder if having more pushback from me or someone outside whatever echo chamber he was in would’ve helped, but he just sapped my energy so much I couldn’t take it.
(trivia for older internet peeps; he was the Legorobot Comics author. If you ever saw his work you could probably tell he was gonna grow up to be a bigot)
Anyways, what’s your friend break up story? What was the last straw? What was the first straw? Any regrets?
Uh huh. That’s why you describe yourself as cutting everyone off every few years, because everyone you meet and hang out with is a dipshit…
I cut them off because they don’t make my life better, they make it worse. I want my life to be better. A lot of people do not, they simple want to wallow in their interpersonal drama and never improve their lives or achieve anything.
God forbid I dump social deadweight in my life, rather than let myself be dragged into people’s drama and misery.
I hang out with people until they become dipshits, then I leave. Sometimes that takes a few months, sometimes years. But once they cross the dipshit line they have lost me. I have no interest in ‘friends’ who endlessly bitch about their partners, their job, or their life and offer me nothing positive. or they become bitter and jealous at my progress and start asking me for money and when I say no they flip out at me.
Sort of like a huge chunk of the userbase on lemmy… endless whining and crying and posturing but never actually taking responsibility for their own lives and happiness… no it’s capitalisms/AI/neoliberalisms fault!