Walking outdoors without crippling allergy attacks
IMO, the main thing I’d want from D&D IRL is to know my health as a number, to frequently have that number at the absolute max, and any time there was something that reduced the number from the max I could either get a good night’s sleep and it would go away, or someone could say some magic words and any negative health conditions would go away.
If your characters are always getting 8 hours of sleep in your D&D campaigns, you might be D&Ding wrong.
I’ve said for years the only way I would ever own a home was in Skyrim, and the healthcare is more accessible in Fallout.
For real, free house just because there’s a poltergeist of an eldridge daedric god? Who hasn’t had roommates like that?
What I don’t get is, why is everyone struggling to make friends as an adult? There’s a loneliness epidemic. People are more isolated than ever and they’re feeling it and say they want to make friends. People online constantly say it is difficult to make friends. Yet when I meet people IRL, no one wants to make friends at all and the struggle is real. IRL no one responds to messages, no one comes to meet ups, no one accepts invitations. It seems the masses out there are not trying to make friends and are actively turning down opportunities…to then go home and be miserable and complain and be lonely. Is there an app or something? Tinder for friends? OnlyFriends.com could be the next thing in this tech dystopia…pay a monthly subscription to have another guy send buddy texts and memes. Relationships and parasocial relationships are comodified. Might as well do the same with friendship since people aren’t giving this shit away for free anymore.
This is something I talk to my therapist about a lot. I have friends, but only on Discord and they live several states away. So I’ve been doing several different volunteer jobs to try and meet people, but all that’s gotten me is people way older than me or way younger neither of which I really feel comfortable becoming friends with. Only time so far I’ve met people around my age (I’m 30) is when I started going to PSL events like group readings or discussion groups. It’s nice, but I also struggle to see myself hanging out with these people outside of these events to like play games or go somewhere.
Bumble has a friends option but I think you have to have like 7 pictures IIRC,
Relationships are riddled with scammers now because people are so desperate to survive.
When you’re already emotionally vulnerable, and you find out what you thought was a friend or romantic partner was just pretending long enough to ask for money, it’s devastating.
My neighbor said her last three dates asked for money on the first date.
When your needs are met, making friends is less difficult. When your life is focused on getting your needs get, making friends is often put on the back burner.
Also hanging out usually costs money. I keep inviting people I’m work friends with to stuff, and they always have to check their budgets.
I think a lot of people never knew how to make friends, not just as adults.
For some their entire social group is made of those that life forced them to meet - i.e classmates from their school days, childhood neighbors, and friends of those friends.
Making new friends is a commitment. People don’t have the energy for another commitment.
That’s trivial question: to become friends you must first talk to someone. More than once. To talk with someone more than once you must have some mutual interests or background limiting circumstances. It is easy to find friends in school, work, army, etc. In places with plenty of people who all are in the same situation and thus have some common (important!) themes and opinions to discuss with you. When you’re out of such places, you don’t have a chance of repeating talk with somebody. That’s it.
This is why I tell everyone they should join a choir or a dance class or whatever you fancy. The entry threshold is lower than for bands and orchestras, since you don’t need and instrument. There’s usually beginner classes for adults, so all you need to bring is yourself and a good mood.
Tech companies made sure to divert social needs to parasocial relationships through a screen. People can watch a stream or stalk fake girls on social media and trick their brains into believing they have covered their social needs without having to put any energy on it. Now some people are starting to chat with AI as they were real people and it’s only to get worse.
You sound like the reason. Assholes
My wife, dogs, and I each take turns taking watch at night in case orcs show up at our house. I mean you never know.
How is getting better at something with practice a fantasy?
In fantasy it’s easy and guaranteed. You pay a pittance to learn from an expert who you met randomly for an instant boost. You get better just by doing something 1000 times and your skills likely will never degrade.
In reality, you tried something and failed without learning much new. You watched tutorials that did not help, or you tried making something work and all you got was a headache and an ugly mess. You are stuck with projects/progress due to external factors that you don’t know how to (or can’t) fix currently. 1000 iterations probably doesn’t mean as much skill improvement as you wish it did and you also lose proficiency because you did not have the time/reason to engage those skills.
I can just say “I spend the down time practicing” instead of “I spend the down time on social media”.
When you’re a level 1 D&D player and you want to sneak past the goblin guard, the GM asks you to roll stealth, you roll, hold your breath, get 12 add your +3 and 15 is enough to sneak by. When you’re level 20 you’re sneaking past ancient dragons with ease.
In a sense you’re actively developing your “stealth skill” the entire time you’re playing the game by using it repeatedly in encounter after encounter.
I think the difference is that it’s a game and the GM is trying to make it fun and appropriately challenging. Even at the low levels, you’re going on exciting adventures. In real life, your guitar playing skills might start with Twinkle Twinkle Little Star. It’s an appropriate level of challenge, but it doesn’t feel all that exciting when you succeed because you realize just how simple it is, and what a gulf in quality there is between you and a competent guitar player. Often you only start to feel competent after years of practice.
Imagine how bad a game D&D would be if skill checks were realistic for the first 5 levels. So, instead of swinging a sword at a goblin, you’d have to first swing a stick at a wooden training dummy, and 1 every 20 swings you’d fail so miserably at it that you’d injure yourself.
Imagine how bad a game D&D would be if skill checks were realistic for the first 5 levels
and 1 every 20 swings you’d fail so miserably at it that you’d injure yourself.
Morrowind’s accuracy system when starting the game, especially if you built your character wrong (or just are using something you’re not built for). Misses don’t add to skill either, so you will continue missing for a long while.
Though you don’t injure yourself, instead you die because you can’t even fight a worm (because you miss more than you hit).
Fair, but IMHO level 1 characters are more like guitarists who finally feel confident, and level 20 are like Jimi Hendrix. We skip past the part where the character would be an incompetent NPC.
Ive been playing some co op games and setting up games with randoms has led to a couple new friends. I’ve also met friends on lemmy.
You can’t be the guy standing in the corner of the room not talking to anyone and expect new friends to appear.
deleted by creator
So basically The Sims?
What? No, Sims is way more fanciful than D&D. Which sounds more realistic riding a unicorn or owning an entire house? Exactly.
Ring of Sustenance, man. The lives that could be changed.
