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  • Maybe make healthcare more affordable

    It’s free, but I probably have to pay more taxes than you do. Nearly half my income goes towards taxes and then we have 24% VAT for most things, including groceries.

    education more accessible

    It’s free for most people, but that just means it doesn’t qualify a good enough income anymore. I earn about a fifth of what I could in the US, while our minimum wage is not much lower than the US, for an example. And a master’s degree doesn’t qualify you a job at McDonald’s either, we’ve over-educated our population. Result is that you need plenty of experience for your first job in whatever industry you studied for.

    build some sort of safety nets for people

    Well, they already exist? There’s unemployment, which doesn’t cover shit because we don’t pay enough taxes yet, as well as homeless shelters if you’re sober you can go to and even social housing if you’re destitute enough and trying to get out of it, but obviously there are waiting lines for those.

    a living wage, whatever

    Minimum wage rises annually.

    But imo we shouldn’t go and try to create a world wherein parents are no longer humans but only inheritance dispensers

    But it’s only fair given that children are legally mandated to take care of their parents in old age.

    My ex is not going to leave either of her kids a single euro. She will probably cost them tens of thousands in end of life care because she opted out of pension payments and took out the funds at the age of 22 or 23. She’ll have free healthcare, sure, but old people’s homes cost more than the national pension. It’s 1500€ a month currently near me and if you rely on the national pension alone, that’s well under 1000€ for most.

    Because I have never even wanted to own my own home. It has never been a requirement to live comfortably

    Trouble for me is when I’m eventually too old to work or AI takes my job for real, I’ll need to have something I don’t have to pay exorbitant rent for. If that’s not a concern for you, you’re incredibly privileged, being able to piss away thousands or tens of thousands of euros a year for the rest of your life. As a software engineer, I can already tell you that this ladder’s been pulled up and nobody hires entry-level engineers anymore. Same for a lot of other knowledge work. Things aren’t going to be getting any better. Most people would rather have a home they don’t have to pay every month for when that happens.

    It’s disturbing to me that many people apparently think that’s normal? I mean, don’t you love your parents and want to see them happy? I don’t get it. My parents were very young when I was born. By the time they die, I’ll be like 60 or (hopefully) even older. I can’t imagine waiting my entire life for them to die, just because I want their money. How fucked up is that?

    Who’s waiting for the parents to die? I’m just speaking about generational wealth being a necessity in this world, because all the millionaires and billionaires are doing it, but the poor are just selling off their already small assets to the aforementioned millionaires and billionaires so they can rent them out to their kids and grandkids.

    I can tell you from looking at my friends: Those whose parents gave them money to make a down payment on a first apartment started buying them in the mid-20s. Those who didn’t, were lucky to get their foot in the door at 30, some still haven’t. 20 years from now, those who can’t get a down payment from their parents, will not be able to buy ANY home unless incredibly lucky. Parents who don’t want to royally screw over their kids and also don’t want to leave their homes as inheritance, should just prepare the funds to get their kids a foot on the ladder when the kids reach their 20s. That’s what I’m trying to do, anyway. My parents didn’t, but they never had the ability and at least I have a house I can come back to when things go to shit (so can my mom, it’s not like I’d ever kick her out, she’s just living with her boyfriend right now). Estonia is one of those countries where people have to work for a living and when you’re unemployed for a long period, rent becomes kinda hard to afford.

    And let’s go back to this for a moment.

    Maybe, I don’t know, vote in people who actually make life more affordable?

    Who do you think voted against those people in the OP? The kid who didn’t get a house, or the boomer parents who sold the house and wanted its value to be as high as possible? The same people selling their homes instead of leaving them to their children are the same people voting against anything that could reduce real estate prices. Because they’d be out of money then. If you’re looking to sell your home for retirement, it makes sense to vote for people who block new developments so housing is less affordable for future generations. Otherwise you’re profiting less.

    Things are only just starting to go to shit. They will get a lot worse. And in most of Europe, most of us don’t really have guns either to Luigi the people who are guilty. Which is why I think anyone who’s having children in 2026 without a plan for how those children are going to be afford normal life, is selfish as fuck.





  • Unfortunately yes, those people shouldn’t have kids. Or rather, if they had any conscience, they wouldn’t be bringing serfs into this world.

    You were probably also born early enough that you can still buy property with a loan. But we’re one or two proper crises away from that ever being an option for the younger folks.

    And the system is designed for that. Expensive assisted living facilities are there so you’d have to sell your home so you can be sucked dry before death. Not just a US thing either. It’s the same in my country.

    When plebs leave their property to their offspring, they’ll start accumulating generational wealth and we’re not supposed to have that.

    Like I said, don’t like it, don’t have children. Not unless something significantly changes economically. I for sure wasn’t planning to have my kid without having a solid financial footing, but my ex of course lied about being on the pill since she saw how much I was earning and saw it as a way to get out of having to work herself. At least I do have my family home, built by my grandparents, that my kid will one day inherit. But of course I don’t want to die too early so I’m also trying to put together enough money for a 20-30% down payment for an apartment in 20 years or so. To kickstart the equity building process. Shouldn’t be too hard normally to do over such a long period, but my ex put me nearly six figures in debt so it’ll take me a bit lol
















  • I mean sure, but they mostly suffer from not enough admiration and servitude (in their eyes) whereas the others around them suffer from constant manipulation, lying, etc.

    Also narcissism doesn’t equal an actual NPD diagnosis because to get that you’d first have to realize you’re not perfect, which a lot of narcissists are incapable of. Honestly, anyone who actually has the diagnosis is probably a significantly better person than a narcissist that doesn’t realize it and seek help.

    I know at least 2 such individuals, one being my ex. They’re so good at lying that they’ll look at you in the eye and blame shit they’ve done on you and you’ll almost believe them. I don’t just mean the standard “I did X but it’s only because you made me feel bad so it’s actually your fault”. I also mean my ex complaining to CPS about things she’s done as if it’d been me. She’s the kind of person that enjoys hitting a 2 or 3 year old with a belt for not eating enough. Luckily that wasn’t my kid or even her other kid (was her friend’s, said friend lived with us to escape a violent relationship, but eh… Not a major improvement. Luckily she got away from it all and I believe is now actually living a fairly happy life).

    I slept 16 hours a week at most and I was told I wasn’t doing enough and it was MY fault our relationship and finances suffered. Always kept telling me I didn’t let her sleep or go out enough even though there were periods where she spent no more than 4-5 hours awake at home per day while I was working an average of 60-70 hours a week and took care of the kids most of the time. Why did I have to work this much? She had a 2-3 strollers per month kinda stroller addiction. Roughly half of them I had to buy brand new. On my payday she’d buy whichever stroller she wanted, would order McDonald’s 2-3 times a day for the next week and then the next 3 weeks I had to get money off my side gigs and beg my friends for loans. She kept telling me how it was my fault that we never had money despite her frivolous spending per month adding up to more than some families earn in a quarter.

    She doesn’t have an NPD diagnosis. She says she’s completely fine “other than the trauma from all the things you did to me” (aka letting her go out to fuck around only 5-6 nights a week instead of 7 and only letting her sleep till 1-2 PM, as well as sometimes refusing to buy her shit which caused her to pretend she’d kill herself).

    So sure, she suffers too, but her suffering is delusions of grandeur that cause her to make bad decisions, whereas the tens or potentially hundreds of victims suffer in many other ways. Put it this way: if you loan her money and ask for it back and 3 months later she still hasn’t paid and you make a Facebook post warning people not to lend her money, she’ll report you to the police. That’s happened to at least 2-3 people (not me, I don’t like public squabbling). Literally accusing her of any wrongdoing will result in a police report and/or lawsuit. 3 months after our divorce she asked me to buy her a car and I refused, 2 days later she said I’m not seeing my child anymore because (list of things she usually does, but claims I do them). Said child had been living with me full time for 4 months and not a single complaint from her before that.

    Her 5 year old from a previous relationship is also known for crying out “I don’t want mommy” because of all the abuse.

    So yes, I’m of the opinion that narcissists don’t suffer nearly as much as the people around them, especially their kids if they have them (in the case of my ex she’s hoping to have more because every kid is one more man she can manipulate)

    PS: the other narcissist I know? The boyfriend she had after me. Carbon copy of her. Confirmed with other mutual acquaintances that it wasn’t just her stories, he really is just as horrible as her. That almost made me believe in the existence of karma. Sadly I don’t think either of them realized that they’re both horrible people. But both are struggling to find new suckers to finance their lifestyles so I think they’re both homeless and couchsurfing now. Turns out if your income is selling fictional goods and borrowing money from friends, it doesn’t last forever. Of course everyone else is at fault for that.