Thank you. I’ve been on a journey this past year. So far I have finally started to accept myself and feel like my struggles and experiences are still valid and important. Been doing ok with it lately. But my coworker’s father has been in very ill health over many months and at this point he very well never make it back to being healthy. It’s slow and horrific and I fear he will die.

Obviously this is huge and traumatic and painful for her. I cannot imagine what she is going through.

But that little voice in my head is creeping back in telling myself that I should feel bad for making a big deal out of things in my life when people are going through shit like my coworker. Idk man.

fun reminder that https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/c/DIYMentalHealth

has a list of crisis resources and even if you’re not in crisis right this second I highly recommend safety planning!

I’ve always been a bit bothered by the word “valid.” It has an Orwellian character to it. People use “Orwellian” as a synonym for “totalitarian,” but I’m being more specific here. Orwell wrote about language. He decried the weakening of language, and how words slowly lose all meaning and power. It’s not enough for something to be bad, it has to be “ungood.” Corporate speak is an example of empty Orwellian language. It’s a retreat to euphemism and vague platitude.

The problem I have with “valid” is that it’s utlimately a completely empty and meaningless word. You would never call someone or their struggles “invalid.” Therefore, calling something valid doesn’t mean anything. It’s just feel good hollow nothingness.

I’m not saying we should go around calling people invalid. I just don’t like the word valid at all. Validity is defined by the invalid. If nothing can be invalid, then nothing can be valid. It’s a word ultimately devoid of meaning, the left wing version of “thoughts and prayers.”

Yeah i mean same with any illness, sometimes a cold is just annoying, sometimes it leaves you in bed for a few days. Humans just have an instinct to try to generalize things but to be rational we have to push back on that.