My brother is coming to visit in a few days, and I want to come out to him, but I am also absolutely terrified. How did y’all handle coming out to your families?

  • compostgoblin@piefed.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
    5·
    17 days ago

    Having a script, or at least just an outline, sounds like a good idea. I almost don’t know what I would say beyond “so, I’m trans. Please call me [real name] and use she/her pronouns from now on.”

    I just have a hard time knowing what info people need to know, but also not wanting to trigger a bad reaction? I don’t know, it always feels like such a dice roll, the uncertainty is so scary.

    • Shirow@lemmy.zipEnglish
      2·
      17 days ago

      Honestly. I tried to point out how happier I was now and that I already started my transition. Basically they could not dissuade me. I also pointed out how I hoped they would be alright with my transition. And added that my brother and sister already knew and are supportive.

      (And… also that my divorce was not a result of my transition but the affirmation of the self - which led to my transition- … I’ve denied my own identity in my previous relationship and prioritized the happiness of my ex-wife and did what I felt was necessary for the couple to work…)

      Edit : also I had to try to make them understand what being “trans” meant in simple terms. Because the concept of gender for them was and probably still is just cisgender “female” or “male”.