WideEyedStupid

Look, we’re never going to agree about this, I think. Sure there are a lot of problems for young people nowadays, but maybe we can find some actual solutions? Maybe, I don’t know, vote in people who actually make life more affordable? Maybe trying to pass some laws that make it easier for people to survive. Maybe make healthcare more affordable, education more accessible, build some sort of safety nets for people, a living wage, whatever; make life better for people so they don’t have to wait until their parents finally die to make something of their own lives. Actual systemic changes in stead of just making it more bearable for some people.

But imo we shouldn’t go and try to create a world wherein parents are no longer humans but only inheritance dispensers who can’t live their own lives.

In case you were wondering, no I don’t have or want kids, and no, it has nothing to do with money.

But I’m thinking that you are American, right? Because I have never even wanted to own my own home. It has never been a requirement to live comfortably. It’s not needed as an ‘insurance’ or investment. And I have never seen my parents as some bag of money I get to spend when they finally decide to die. It’s disturbing to me that many people apparently think that’s normal? I mean, don’t you love your parents and want to see them happy? I don’t get it. My parents were very young when I was born. By the time they die, I’ll be like 60 or (hopefully) even older. I can’t imagine waiting my entire life for them to die, just because I want their money. How fucked up is that?

And people who don’t even own a home, shouldn’t have kids at all? I guess that would solve some problems…

But really, being willing to leave your home is not the only consideration. I finally got my mom convinced that she should sell her home, because she can barely get up the stairs anymore due to health issues. Am I supposed to force her to keep living there so I can get her money? Do you realize how fucked up that is? No. Absolutely not. She worked her entire life and she should be able to enjoy her retirement, and make it as easy as possible for herself, without having to worry about all the shit that comes with owning a home, and definitely without me complaining about how unfair it is that she won’t just die and leave me all her crap.

Sure, but there’s a very large area between not contributing at all and not being allowed to sell your own home. Parents can contribute in plenty of ways without being forced to keep living in a house because their kids care more about an inheritance than their parent’s wishes/well-being.

Sure, there is nothing wrong with that at all. All parents want to make sure their kids live better lives than they did, right? My parents also worked hard and paid for all that, my mom still helps my brother with things sometimes, helps pay for stuff when needed, but the OP makes it sound like those parents did something wrong by selling their house, and that actually they were supposed to keep it, against their will, so their kid could get the money? I think that’s complete bullshit. It’s their house, they get to do with it what they want. OP should be happy that their parents have such a house to sell in the first place, because there are a lot of people who don’t even have that.

Exactly. I don’t really understand this post or what it’s trying to say. My parents worked hard, and then when they retire they should get to enjoy it, isn’t that the point?

My mom is almost 60 now and she is finally trying to sell the house. My brother and I grew up in it, but it’s way too big for her alone. I told her she should sell it and find some small apartment to rent somewhere, so she doesn’t have to fix/pay everything herself anymore.

Dramatic much? Canceling a subscription is ‘the unthinkable’ now? For fuck’s sake.