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  • It would be absolutely ruinous if I actually believed any of those. When I said that men gatekeeping women was terrible, I was copying your words. I think it matters way more what they’re actually saying.

    And yes, Joe Rogan is relevant because you have postured yourself as fighting for the inclusion of his viewers into our big, capital M Manhood celebration, the viewers of a vaccine denier. A very strange thing to pitch for.

    See, another interpretation of “when a boy becomes a man” is about the process of growing up. And, forgive me, I do think that having a grifter like that in your watch history does mean that you’re still 14.









  • That may have been a joke.

    But if somebody did mean it seriously, like they were actually upset, one, I would make fun of them, and two, I would think that what they think they’re gesturing at is a kind of insincerity, or inauthenticness, by calling the “quality” film factory-made.

    How does that make sense… It’s sort of like how conservatives think that woke lefties only pretend to care about civil rights as a rhetorical tactic to use against them.


  • I’m gonna be honest, even if people were paid for their contributions to midjourney’s… brain, I guess, I would still hate it.

    AI is a product of the same sickness, the same mental illness that society has been suffering from for, like, centuries. It is a technology built by and for people who’d want a private car so they won’t have to sit on the bus among the dirty poors. It’s inhuman.



  • I mean, I hear you.

    I think a lot of that comes from the growing miasma of loneliness and social antipathy. A lot of people are bored, and resentful, and they feel like their lives suck, and there’s nothing to do but hop on discord, and they’re 26 and they don’t have a house yet; and as soon as you patch them up a bit, suddenly they lose interest in being incels.

    You ever been kind of irritable, maybe while on the job, and like an hour later, after the lunch rush, you realize you were just hungry? All of that irritation just melts away. I don’t think that these things are different. You have to get to the emotional core of what’s actually bothering people.

    Anyway, I’ve done like a metric fuckton of talking here. I love my own voice, but I’m kind of sick of it now.

    I am curious, though: you said you pulled yourself out of the alt-right pipeline, what do you feel it was that saved you?



  • Don’t worry about it, you’re english is fine and I would never blame a person for that anyway.

    The reason I made that sentence comparison was not to suggest that you were lying to me, it was to illustrate the game of telephone that gets played every time subjects like this come up.

    You say something like “Black lives matter,” but what people hear is “White lives don’t matter.” And so, then you spend a bunch of time arguing about whether “Black lives matter” is a good catch phrase instead of police violence.

    You say something like “straight women get far too handsy with queer people,” but what people hear is “all straight women are evil.” And so, then you spend a bunch of time arguing about whether being straight and a woman is morally acceptable instead of sexual assault.

    If you’re paying attention, you’ll notice something. This game, where you just add extra words to the things people are saying, is really easy to play.

    I told the other person I would be upset if their supposedly better framing was just to swap the word ‘man’ for ‘patriarchy’, and the reason why is that the likes of Andrew Tate or Sean Hannity or Tucker Carlson or Nick Fuentes or Steven Crowder—all of these broken clocks, as you say, all of them know that ‘patriarchy’ just means men. And even if it didn’t (it kind of doesn’t), they’ll just say it does anyway. That’s their air of legitimacy.

    All of the work that you put into avoiding this situation where these grifting conservative dipshits get to pretend that what you’re saying is worse than it is is really easy to unravel. You spend all of this energy trying to appease people, and it buys you nothing. And worse, you never actually got to talk about sexual assault.

    You are losing the battle if you let them drag you into this pithy, pointless debate about the exact verbage of the idea you’re trying to express. It is so much better to just shut them down.

    I’ll leave you with this question: if the problem is that the phrase “straight women love SAing queer people” is misleading, why does explaining what you actually meant never seem to fix the problem?


  • “straight women love SAing queer people”
    “All men commit sexual assault.”

    When was that word ‘all’ added, do you think? I don’t remember seeing it. You’re correct, that would be easily disprovable.

    Andrew Tate, by the way, does not need ammunition; he will freely invent the ammunition he needs. Those men, also, are perfectly comfortable jumping onto incel boards to complain about how femoids only want high sexual market value—nary a concern about how any of this language may or may not be unfair.

    Listen, the whole problem is, the reason why I’m here, is that if you listen to these people then you never get to make cultural critiques. Martin Luther King never gets to talk about the white moderate because Not All White Moderates are like that, you know? You have to learn to identify when people are just disingenuously deflecting.

    Most of these men do not care about the fairness of this language; it is piss easy to figure out when someone is talking about a class demographic vs. its individual members. The thing they care about is never dealing with the subject. They’re just protecting their cultural capital.

    There are other ways of dealing with Andrew Tate’s followers: you call them stupid and you make fun of them for it because they are and they deserve it. And I hear you, “how is being mean effective?” But I’ll tell you, no one likes being on the side of the uncool.